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12 SIGNS HE WILL NOT MARRY YOU

So many women go into relationship with the hope that it will lead to marriage. The sad thing is that this hope can be fanned to last several years and still no marriage. Leaving the relationship becomes difficult because they feel they have invested so much into it. Why then didn't they leave the relationship at the initial stage, at the first sign he wouldn’t marry you? This can be attributed to not knowing signs,  And being afraid to take chances. But no more ladies, find out before it becomes too late if he would marry you or not with this ten tips.


1. Waiting for the Right Time-
 It sounds so mature and responsible for your guy to say that he will ask you to marry him as soon as "the time is right,” but this is just another stalling tactic.  Over the years we've heard all of the "it isn't the right time" excuses.  They've ranged from men waiting for that big promotion to one man who wanted his brother to have enough time to grieve after his divorce before he was “forced” to participate in wedding festivities.
People manage to tie the knot during less than perfect circumstances all the time.  Nearly every member of the clergy has a story about a bride or groom who had to hobble down the aisle after breaking a leg or having a serious injury before their wedding.  Remember these couples when you’re evaluating whether his reason for waiting really has any merit
2. An Engagement With No Date Set-
Many men find that presenting a women with a diamond ring is the king of all stalling tactics.   If the man has the financial means, he can often get several years worth of stall time with a large enough diamond. Now those are the classy men, what about those who would present an ordinary cheap ring with no date set.  If you’ve been engaged for more than a few months and you still don’t have a date set, then the odds of you walking down the aisle with this man are slim at best.  The same goes for wedding dates that are set two or more years into the future

3. HE DOES NOT MENTION YOU IN THE FUTURE

When he talks about his future and what he plans on doing, you never seem to show up in there. He never mentions you or having kids. He never says “our” future or what “we” are going to do. He never seems to include you in anything, not even future parties. Hmm…I don’t think he’s thinking about marrying you. Do you?

4. HE DOES NOT TELL YOU HE.LOVES YOU
Usually, “I love you” does not come after marriage, it comes before marriage. If you are in love, then you say that. When people are in love, they get married. Right? Usually. So, if he never says this to you, then it may not be a good sign.

5. A marriage minded man will always be positive about marriage
At any time you raise the issue of marriage, a marriage minded guy will surely speak positive of it as well as other people’s marriage. He will be open to such discussion and how both of you can quickly find ways to get it settled. On the other hand, if he speaks negative of it and condemn other people’s marriage, be sure, he’s not the marrying kind of man you want. If he’s seeing marriage troubles rather than the benefit, he’s not a kind of man that will accept marrying you even though; he may profess it with his mouth. He is never going to be committed and you should just gently find you way and get out of his life before he waste the good part of you

7. Your family affairs
Usually, a man who doesn’t insist on meeting a woman’s parents can usually mean that he doesn’t think that the relationship is serious and going down the marriage road.
He’s only thinking short-term goals with her.
The reason for this is that men, who are not serious about marriage, do not want too many wounded fatalities when it’s time to break it off with you.
Men with sincere intentions would not pass the idea of meeting your family. They wouldn’t be so hesitant to bond with your dad in the living room or make any effort to get along with your siblings.
A man who is head-over heels crazy for a woman he wants to marry will make every effort to be liked by her mother. He’ll even make sure the family dog loves him too.

8. Bachelor’s Pad
If you take a look at the guy’s place and see a stripper pole, a rotating bar in front of a pool table and an open Jacuzzi, then he might not be very ready to give up his bachelor life.
Men are very protective of their freedom. And if your guy keeps you off limits to his place then it’s probably because there’s something, or someone, in there that he doesn’t want you to see

9.He Can’t Make Big Decisions
 His reluctance to marry might not be about you at all. If he can’t decide on, say, what career path he wants to follow or where he wants to live, he probably doesn’t know himself well enough to settle down yet

10. He never owns up in public:
 If he downplays the relationship in front of his friends and family, often referring to you as his ‘good friend’, chances are he isn’t going to stick around for too long.

11. He sleeps during romantic movies:
 Okay, this might not sound all that important but trust me, if he high fives you when the hero leaves the bride-to-be and runs away, it might just be an insight into his marriage psyche.

12.Your dates aren’t serious:
If going out consists of crashing over at his place or renting a movie, chances are he is just having a casual fling. While comfort does tend to take over in a relationship, his lack of effort could point to a bigger issue.

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EVERY WAKING MOMENT


CHAPTER TWO

Helen came out of her house. She was dressed for the day. She locked the door to her self contained apartment and stood, trying to steady herself. The nightmare shook her more than she cared to admit. She pated the long human hair Nma had given her for Christmas, adjusted the red, black and white low waist flay gown she wore. On her feet were red wage and nature tone over size purse to set it off. She took a deep breath and let it out slowly, she was ready for the day. She had a mission and she would get it done no matter what.

As she came down the short flight of stairs that led to her apartment, she found out that her land lady’s daughters were already out and getting their children ready for school. A more troublesome lot she was yet to see. As soon as they saw her, they started laughing and at what Helen couldn’t tell. She cared little for them today. She had come to the conclusion that their behavior is out of their own inferiority complex and envy. They were three of them and they each had like two children each for different men. What kind of a life was that to live, she asked herself ignoring them and walking on? A Painstaking cry and an equally violent beating of a child reached her ears and she turned around only to see one of the daughters flogging a child like the child was an inanimate object. The child wailed and rolled on the floor while the mother continued to flog him with gigantic cane. Helen’s heart went out to the child; it was even more painful that there was nothing she could do. The last time she tried to intervene had only made it worse. The child received an double dose of the flogging and she received a whole lot of insult for her trouble. She waved down a taxi, feeling very bad for the little boy. She wondered what would make a mother abuse her child that way. She wondered if the mother somehow blamed the kid for all the wrong choices she had made and the results too. Putting the ugly scene out of her mind, she took another breathe, getting ready.

 First of all she had to find out if Chuck was in town. He spent his last holiday abroad and had hardly been back since he started dating his white super model girl friend. She quickly pushed that unhappy thought out of her mind. Why she didn’t want to remember that Chuck was dating a white girl, she didn’t care to tell.  She wondered if he was settling down at last. He has been dating the girl longer than any other girl he had dated before. He flaunted her easily, posting pictures of the two of them on his instagram page. Their topic had been the hottest on all the gossip and celebrity blogs and magazines. It had hurt her real bad then but at last she was ready to get over her silly infatuation on him. She was moving on, taking back her life. She was taking the first step of recovering her memories, of finding out who she was. Seeing Chuck and taking back her purse was symbolic, she was not only taking her purse, she was taking back her life from him. She shook her head from side to side as if trying to clear it of the painful thought that Chuck might actually be settling down with another girl before she had her chance to show him…. Show him what she demanded. The man was out of her league; had she not told herself that. All she needed from him was her purse and nothing more. But she couldn’t help the thought that he might come back with his white girl friend.  And what if he does, she asked angrily, it was not any of her business what he did or who he came back with.  But she had to know how it would affect her mission, positively she answered firmly. With his girlfriend present he wouldn’t dream of playing any hanky panky with her. He would just hand it over if she asked just to avoid suspicion by his girl. She took another deep breath, she was over thinking it. She thought. First thing first, find out if he was coming for Nma’s son’s first birthday or not.

Arriving at the head quarters of NMA, Helen took a deep breath and walked forward unsteady and uncertain. But she couldn’t help the happy sense of achievement that overtook her each time she walked into NMA, to think that she was a part of this magnificent history, not just being part of it but a part of it from nearly level zero to this. After her marriage to Uche, Nma had expanded NMA. It now had 3 three boutiques and smaller shops in almost all the malls in the city. Nma had not done it alone; Helen had been there by her side. Doing all that was necessary to make the journey less painful and more successful. Now she was the co-owner and head designer of NMA lingerie line. She couldn’t be any happier. If only she had her memory of who she was, what she was, did she have a husband, children, fiancée, parents or siblings? Have they given her up for dead? It has been three years since she went missing. Would she easily give up a loved one for dead no matter how long it took without the proof the person’s death? She couldn’t tell. The truth was she didn’t know the kind of person she was, what she did, if she was loved or if she was even being missed.
Getting to the door of the building, she pushed the sad and confusing thoughts out of her mind even as she pushed the door open and entered into another world. A world of magic, magic created by the very best magicians in the field being headed by a woman whose creativity, decisions and personality she had come to respect and love so dearly.
Helen nodded to the greetings of some colleagues and sales executives and headed to the elevators. The work room and offices were located at the fifth floor and very private. Yes that was how big Nma had grown in less than two years. Uche had surprised his wife by buying her this ten story high rise to celebrate their one year anniversary and Nma being a tough and sensible business woman had put it in good use. The elevator door slide open and Helen walked into the Spartan hall way and walked straight to her office. She dropped her bag and sat down.
 Best I get it over it now, she told herself. She needed to know Chuck’s plan, to know if he was in town, though she was strongly expecting him to come back since Nma’s son is celebrating his first birthday in two days. Chuck being the doting uncle wouldn’t want to miss it for the world. He missed his church dedication, her mind reminded her. He couldn’t make it because it was in the middle of the season, she remembered someone making those excuses for him. So she was sure he wouldn’t miss this one.
You are just being a coward she said to herself and got up from her chair. With determined footsteps she went in search of Nma.

Helen knocked slightly and entered the beautifully furnished office. Nma was talking on the phone but smiled at her when she came in and waved her to a seat.
‘I love you darling but have to go now’ Nma said to the phone and blew a kiss.
‘Didn’t you guys wake up together this morning…’ Helen joked
‘What makes you think I was talking to Uche’ Nma rejoined and smiled and walked over to give Helen a hug
‘Who else would you be saying I love you to and then the kiss’
Nma laughed ‘when you love someone you would understand, right now it wouldn’t make sense to you’
‘You look radiant, I love that frock’ Nma complimented
‘As well you should, it is one of yours’
‘We are good, aren’t we?’
‘Better than that, we are the best’ Helen said
Nma laughed ‘your hubris is comforting’
Helen smiled; it was time to launch into the agenda of her coming here.
‘How is the birthday boy doing?’
‘He is destructive; I don’t know where he got that from’
Helen laughed
‘let’s see he broke his grandmother very rare and very expensive urn, what else, painted on his father very important merger documents’ Nma laughed ‘I have never seen my husband quite mad, confused and amused that way before’
‘He is a darling’
‘Luckily for him we love him more than all earthly possession so he can get away with all that for now’
‘my boy… does he miss me”
‘Does he miss ta hinhin’ they both laughed
‘Of course he does. He is only quite agreeable and quiet when you are around’
‘So how the party is plans coming up?’
‘We have decided that tomorrow night there will be barbecue with friends and family, since Uche wants to show off his newly acquired grilling skills’
‘Wow! So family and friends are…’
‘You know the usual bunch’
Helen was a bit frustrated; Nma wasn’t forth coming with information. She needed her to say if Chuck was coming or not.
‘You just looked a bit worried now’ Nma observed
Helen quickly smiled ‘me I am fine’
‘Helen I know you and I know you are not fine. So come on out with it’
Helen thought about it, she felt like a criminal taking advantage of Nma’s concern but there was no way she could really tell her that she had had amnesia for three years and didn’t have the guts to tell her after all they have been through. And now she only came to see her because she needed information on Chuck to get back her red purse which was her only connection to her past which could be the only means to her remembering her past. When put like that Helen thought, it didn’t look criminal it sounded downright diabolical.
‘Helen you know you can talk to me about anything’ Nma said jolting out of her thoughts
There was no choice for it, Helen thought and smiled at Nma.
‘It’s just that, everyone coming would be paired up, you know you and Uche, IJ and Stanley, Chuck and Star or the super model who knows. I seem to be the only who would be alone’
‘And maybe Star… she never had a chance before that white girl sank her claws on Chuck’
‘Wow’ was all Helen said
‘But on the bright side I am inviting our doctor’s son; he is a surgeon abroad so there will be someone you can pair up with’
‘Me and Star both, funny how the two of us will appear desperate vying for his attention’ Helen smiled. ‘Forget about me, I am just being my foolish insecure self.’
‘On the bright side there is still Stanley, we are looking for a way to save him from Ij, you could be his savior’
‘No not interested in handsome billionaires who think they walk on water and women should worship them’
‘Ouch! That was exactly my husband but look at him today, in love and loving every minute of it’
Helen smiled; ‘you are worth ten million of him darling’ Helen gave up trying to get information from Nma. This one she concluded, she was going to solve on her own.
‘Or Chuck’ Nma said suddenly
‘Chuck has a girl friend and he might not even come back?’
‘He wouldn’t miss it for the world, besides he is on break and we could always devise a means to keep him separated from his girl friend and…’
‘Stop please’ Helen laughed ‘we sound like two wicked step sisters’
‘Your call darling, his plane would touch down tonight, and you know I would do anything for you.’
Helen heaved a sigh of relief. she had just the information she needed but try as much as she could she couldn’t hide her sadness that Chuck wasn’t coming alone.
‘Helen you don’t have to worry about being alone, work with it and when the right person comes along, you will know it’
‘I am sure of it, and its okay. So enough with the heavy stuff, have we the time and date for the launch of the lingerie line’
‘not yet, but let’s talk about it later today, you own twenty five percent of it so it is not a decision I can make alone, you, me, Amber and Rose need to come together and discuss it first’
‘Fine then’ Helen got up ‘I had better head back to my department, have a piled up table’
Helen closed the door behind her and all thoughts of work cleared; she needed to get her purse tonight if possible.

All through the day, she did nothing but devise and discard one plan after the other. She needed an angle, a believable one to get her into Chuck’s house. She could just meet him at Nma’s son’s birthday and ask him for it, she decided. He asked you to come get it yourself. Her mind whispered. Yes and that was eons ago so he may have forgotten her. Forgotten the purse, forgotten their kiss. She looked down on her table feeling somehow sad that he could forget the kiss that was still on her mind every of her waking moment. No she would go get it herself if for nothing to get a closure. Her crush on him was something that she should have gotten over before this time. To prove if not to everybody but to herself that she was finally over him. Why she continued to moon over him she couldn’t say.  The man hardly knew she existed and hadn’t done anything to encourage her feelings yet the feeling seemed to grow even as his knowledge of her faded from his mind.
She would go maybe seeing him with the woman he loved would bring it home to her that this man wasn’t for her, would confirm to her foolish heart that the man was taken and no longer available.
All that day in her office Helen rehearsed in her mind what she would say to him, how sophisticated she would behave and the  nonchalant way she would sound. As she rode home in a taxi she tried to build a forte around her heart, her feelings, her body and all parts of her that seemed to lose control whenever he was near. It was rather a long list because it seemed every part of her was aware of him in their different capacity. This is not working Helen said to herself, as she walked into her modest house. She wished she had someone to talk to. Another woman who would understand how she felt and why what she was doing was beyond difficult. Nma would happily and eagerly play that role but then she would have to tell her about her amnesia. Nma would see it as a betrayal of trust that she would hide something so huge from her, when her own life was an open book for Helen. No she wasn’t going to tell Nma yet, she wasn’t ready to lose the friendship of the only woman who gave a hoot about her. She was going to do this on her own. If it back fired then she would live with.

The next morning Helen sat in front of her mirror and stared at herself. She had this uncertain feeling about the action she had decided to take. Was it the right one, would it be misunderstood? Would he think it was all a ploy on her part to get him to notice her? Yes he might see her like another desperate girl looking for his favors. But shouldn’t he be used to that, after all he was Chuks Obi voted world’s sexiest man alive and added to it, he was stinking rich and highly talented and then when he realized that she wasn’t there to jump him like he would think at first, he would be thoroughly disappointed. Helen smiled; maybe there was some enjoyment to be had in this mission impossible of hers.
She got up from the chair. If only she didn’t need her purse so desperately. It was her only connection to her past. A past that seemed so dark and foggy, she didn’t know if she would ever penetrate through it and find out what secret it held. Helen sighed as she did always whenever she thought of her past.
Her mind was made up; she was going to do it. She was going to Chuck Obi’s house. Thanks to her very best friend and boss Nma, she got to know that Chuck’s was expected back last night for his annual holiday. Some might question why she had to go this early in the morning but she had only one good reason. Tomorrow was Nma’s son’s birthday party and there was that barbecue party and she wanted to carry her red purse. She didn’t care if she was believed or not. She didn’t need to justify to anybody why she wanted her purse back even if her timing was way off.  It was the man’s fault that her purse ended up in his house. If he hadn’t stolen a kiss from her which got her so spooked that she ran out from the car forgetting her purse, she wouldn’t be here in her room afraid and at the same time excited to go. Try as much as she could to understand why she was so spooked by simple touching of lips, she never could.
She heaved a sigh and looked around the scantily furnished room. There was just a bed and an arm chair, her dresser at one corner. She used white lace cotton to separate the bedroom from the sitting room, that was even less furnished she had her television, music system and nothing else. music was a major part of her life. It inspired her creativity and helped her somehow to reach within herself. So she had that and a rug. She had never felt the need to add more furniture and never cared. She put that to not knowing where she was coming from. And she had to know where she was coming from before she could understand where she wanted to go. She didn’t want to put down roots or become too attached only to wake one morning and remember.
Dragging herself back to the present, it was no use, she chided herself. Thinking about it would never make it any easier. She just had to live with it the best way she could and wait and hope the she would hit her head and remember.
Then she turned to look at herself in the mirror, she was still half dressed, she took some steps back and looked at herself. She became a bit irritated. She was skinny and didn’t have all the curves that Nma was so proud of. Try as much as she could, she could never add an ounce. It just was not fair, she cried. Nma was so beautiful, that was why a man as handsome and powerful as Uche Okoha couldn’t resist her, saw her once and fell head over heels in love with her. Helen sighed, on the other hand she was plain, dark or cinnamon like Nma kept telling her. Ok she had wide beautiful eyes that only Nma had complimented. She had full lips that were too wide for her face. Her best features were her smile. The sun seemed to shine brighter when she smiled; okay for that one she had received compliments. But then again, she didn’t smile always. What did she have to smile about? Then she chided herself, she had her job, she was the head designer and co owner of Nma’s new lingerie line. She was talented and she looked back at the mirror and gave herself a once over. At least every body says she was talented, and tall. Standing at five feet seven, she was tall and she didn’t care what people said. But she was skinny, maybe she should be grateful that she wasn’t fat, she was curvy enough for a slim girl. Her breast should be tiny going by her size but it wasn’t and she wasn’t flat behind either. She had long shapely legs which she hardly exposed and she had nice eyes and million dollar smile.
Then she stopped “million dollar smile?”  Sounded like something someone had said to her before. She sat down and tried to remember but all she met was dark nothingness. With frustration she marched to her closet and threw it open. It was all Chuck’s fault if he didn’t make her forget her purse or if he had agreed to bring it to her at Nma shop like she asked him or if he had the good sense to spend his Christmas holiday in the country then she wouldn’t be in this mess. She wouldn’t be standing before her mirror trying to figure out what to wear. She didn’t want to look desperate or intimidated or defeated. She knew as much as she knew that Helen was probably not her name that clothes could have any of those effects on a person. She wanted to look classy, with an air of nonchalance but with a very simple sophistication. So she withdrew a soft yellow and chocolate sundress and marched to her mirror wearing the dress as she went. By the time she got to the mirror she only had to do up the short side zip. She smoothened the dress on her body. And stared at it, the gown stopped at her knee, it was cut like a tube  and clung to her bust except that it had short flay sleeves and  clung to her tiny waist and flayed out around her hips. She was impressed, she wondered what Chuck would think when he saw her. She wondered if he would be impressed.
“Come on Helen” she scolded herself. The guy only dated beauty queens and super models. That was correct she agreed and started on her makeup.  Making up was not her thing even though Nma always encouraged her and had even given her a few pointers. So she sat down and applied a soft pink lip gloss and outlined her eyebrows, and applied light eye shadow. She found out that it made her huge eyes appear dreamy and mysterious; she also added mascara to emphasize her long lashes. Then she brushed out her long waist length hair,. She smiled at the effect and took out her chocolate wage heels and a chocolate bag to match.
Helen stared at herself one more time, she was impressed.
“I look good” she told her reflection. Took out her brown sun glasses incase the sun became unbearable.
But she stopped as she was about to go, she heaved a sigh. Suddenly she was nervous. Okay she was attracted to the man best she accepted that and deal with it now before it came out the wrong time to bite her. But who wouldn’t be, No hot blooded woman with two good eyes wouldn’t be attracted to him but that wasn’t why she was going there today. She was going to get her purse because she needed it to compliment the dress she was wearing to the barbecue this evening. At least that was the angle she was pitching to Chuck as her reason for coming to his house. And she was going this early…she wasn’t sure why but she guessed she was going early because she might never have the time or the courage to go again. So she told herself through gritted teeth to stop being excited. Having said that she took a few minutes to calm down then she left her house with an over night bag she had packed in case she couldn’t leave Nma’s Eden Castles at a descent hour. It was no big deal, she had slept over number times there since Nma and Uche moved over there.


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TEN FOOD THAT KILL YOU

You’re Well aware of all the foods that are good for you, like fresh fruits and vegetables, but do you know about the foods that can kill you? And it is quite unfortunate that we consume these foods on a regular base but these foods are unhealthy, not good for you and  can lead to some serious health problems, especially if you eat them regularly  Want to know what they are? Well, keep reading!

1. Low-Fat Foods

A lot of people think that they are being healthy by purchasing foods that are labeled as “low fat”. Unfortunately this is not the case, as most of these foods are packed with unhealthy chemicals to make up for the lack of fat. These chemicals are extremely bad for your body and can even damage your health over time.

2. Margarine

People choose margarine over butter because it doesn’t have cholesterol in it, but what you need to pay attention to is what IS in it! Margarine is extremely high in trans-fat, which can damage your blood vessels and even increase your cholesterol.

3. Fruit Juice

A lot of shoppers think they are healthy when they purchase fruit juice, but these are actually very bad for the body. Not only are most made with artificial flavors and not any real fruit, they are packed full of sugar and other chemicals that can cause obesity and other serious health problems. Even real fruit juice is packed full of sugar that provides you with no nutritional value. It’s best to eat a piece of fruit instead of drink it, unless you’re juicing your own fresh fruits and vegetables at home.

 4. Processed Meats

The chemicals that are inside of processed meats have been linked to colon cancer and many other health problems. They are also packed full of sugar, salt and fat that can lead to obesity and diabetes. You’re always better off cooking your own meat from lean cuts and avoiding the processed meats all together.

5. Energy Bars

Energy bars are marketed as healthy snacks for people who want to lose weight and get fit. Unfortunately a lot of people don’t read the nutritional information on these bars in the first place. Many of them are made with a lot of sugar and fat, even though they are high in protein. You’re better off staying away from these and reaching for a natural snack, like almonds and cheese, instead.

6. Frozen Dinners and Lunches

Sure those frozen meals are convenient, but what price do you pay for that convenience? These frozen dinners, even those that are low in calories, are really high in sodium. They are also extremely processed, which means they really put your body through a lot of work in order to digest through your body.

7. Breakfast Cereals

There are really only a few breakfast cereals on store shelves today that are actually good for you. Even those that are labeled “healthy” generally turn out to be packed full of sugar and fat. You might be surprised to find that most of the cereals you love have more sugar than your dessert does! On top of all of that, cereals are normally processed quite a bit and made with chemicals to make them seem “healthier” to the consumer.

 8. Doughnuts

Speaking of breakfast foods, who doesn’t love a sugary doughnut when they are running late to start the day? Although they may taste good, these are a huge source of sugar, fat, trans fat and carbohydrates. In fact, just one of these fried treats is generally well over 300 calories. Since most people tend to eat more than one, this can lead to quick weight gain without even realizing it.

9. Soda

Regular soda is a huge source of sugar and a variety of other chemicals that have been linked to several different types of cancer. These provide absolutely no nutritional value to you and can lead to diabetes as well. Even diet soda carries risks, as it’s made with a lot of chemicals to make up for the lack of sugar, and these have been linked to diseases and cancers.

10. Potato Chips

Before you reach for that bag of potato chips; think again! These are filled with a lot of fat and calories, but did you know they are also loaded with dangerous chemicals? Most chips are made with acrylamide, which is created when foods are fried at extremely high temperatures. This chemical is linked to cancer, which can result in death.

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HUNGRY HEARTS
Good day people

I caught my husband and my younger sister on our matrimonial bed.
I am ten years old in marriage, and childless. I am also a nurse. So sometimes I am on morning or night shift.
My younger sister got admission into our state university after many years of trying and since I live very close to the university my parents asked me to take her in.
one day I was morning shift, I was supposed to go to market from there but I forgot the money in my wardrobe. So I came home and found my husband and still on bed and not dressed. He told me he wasn't feeling too well but it was nothing to worry about. So I went to the wardrobe to get the money, he tried to stop me. I was surprised and insisted, he tried to stop me by force as we were struggling my sister came out of there naked and ran out.
I was speechless, I was broken, my sister ran out of the house. My husband was probably too afraid or ashamed to do anything but pace. after while I called my family, they came, my brothers beat up my sister. After everything I left with them.
Now my sister is pregnant and my husband is asking her to keep it since we don't have a child that after she has the baby, we will adopt it. He is also asking me to come back. My parents who have been on my side is beginning to see reasons with him. Only my brothers are saying no that the man is worthless and that both of us should forget him.
I have a feeling that if my sister has that baby, that somehow the affair will continue and she will become the second wife.
People are giving me different advice but they don't understand.
How can I forgive or forget or live in the same house with my sister who betrayed me as my mate? Or be a wife to a man who seduced and slept with my sister on our marriage bed?

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EIGHT SUBTLE AND SNEAKY WAYS TO GET A GUY YOU LIKE TO ASK YOU OUT

When a guy sees a girl he likes, it is easy and very acceptable for him to put move on her but it is so unfair that it is so different for girls. Most girls carry their secret and unreciprocated feelings to their graves because they are too afraid of how the man will react if they make the first move. So most end up marrying a man they don't love because the one they loved didn't ask them out.

But here are 8 ways to get the man you like to ask you and he will do so thinking it was all his idea.


1. Make Real Eye Contact.
Unfortunately, many women tend to turn away when they like someone, and avoid looking directly at them. This is a mistake! Whether you’re checking out a guy who hasn’t seen you yet, or started talking to one, make sure you look into his eyes for an extra few seconds.

2. Get your friend to call you both a couple

When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”
It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.

3. Let him know your routine
During one of your conversations, let him know what you do every evening after work or school, especially if you have a neighborhood café where you like relaxing after the regular 9 to 5, or hit a particular gym every day. He might just take the hint and decide to check the place out or you can politely invite him, you know casually.

4. BE YOU
No one likes deception. Think about it. If a guy was extremely gentlemanly on the first date (opened doors for you, pulled your chair out, etc...) and all of that magically disappeared when the two of you got a little more serious, you would feel cheated right? So don't do the same thing. Yes, we all tweak our normal selves to impress the other person, but there is a fine line between tweaking and being downright fake. So listen to him when he talks about his favorite sport but don't pretend to be a born fan just to get him to like you and ask you out. This is definitely one of the top ways to get a guy to ask you out!

5. Dress and appearance
There are some things you can wear and then some clothes that you should just not wear especially if you are trying to impress a guy. Fashion trends are going to be the death of us one day! Don't follow them just to get a guy to ask you out because in the bargain, you might be highly uncomfortable and that's not the best thing for your confidence. Instead, figure out what suits your body and find ways to accentuate your best features. Draw attention to your killer legs, wear colors that bring out your gorgeous eyes, wear a belt to emphasize the curves of your waist, you get the point. Just remember that learning what looks good on you is a process. You may goof up every now and then but that's okay. Just be comfortable and enjoy the process!


6. Become the damsel in distress
The truth is that men are genetically programmed to help the women who need their help. You can come up with all kinds of excuses to ask for his help, such as having broken window panels, flat tyre, computer malfunction, setting up a new electronic etc.  you should ask for his help. If he likes you too, he will help you without hesitation. You should thank his generosity by  buying him lunch or dinner or home cooked meal. You can be sure that he will be more courageous next time and he will ask you out for a real date.

7. You might try pretending to be sick
We have to admit that this is a dirty move, but all is allowed when it comes to how to make a boy ask you out. Although it might sound like a cliché, you should pretend to have a headache of stomach cramps. Naturally he will offer you to take you home that you should accept. Invite him once you get home and change into something comfortable but not too revealing. Most probably he will wish to hang around to keep you company. This is one of the easiest ways of getting a guy to ask you out. For sure he will want to see you again after you get better.

8. Let him know that you are single
If you are still asking how to make someone ask you out it means that he still didn’t find the courage to make a step. In this case you could encourage him by dropping subtle hints that you are single but you are ready for a new relationship. If he didn’t have the courage until this point, this might be the final push that he needs. However, this is one of the tips on getting a guy to ask you out that might backfire as well. Just make sure that you don’t expose yourself too much; you don’t want him to think that you are desperate.

Ask him to drive you nearby
In case you have some errands to run after work, you might bump into him “by accident” and you may ask him to drive you nearby and help you with your errands. You can be sure that chivalry is not dead and he will be pleased to help you. Once you are done you should invite out for drinks, to an early dinner etc saying that this is the “least that you can do”. In a way he will feel like he owes you one and next time he will be the one asking you out to hang out and then you won’t have to ask how to get a guy to ask you out again.

EVERY WAKING MOMENT

HELLO READERS!

HOW ARE YOU TODAY? I KNOW SOME HAVE WAITED FOR ME TODAY TO FULFILL MY PROMISE. SOME ARE STILL WAITING AND SOME HAVE GIVEN UP.

BUT I TOLD YOU THE LAST TIME THAT THERE IS NO GOING BACK THIS TIME AROUND.

I WAS GOING TO POST CHAPTER TEN TODAY TO CONTINUE FROM WHERE WE STOPPED BUT I HAVE SOME NEW READERS WHO HAVE ASKED ME TO START FROM THE BEGINNING. FOR THEIR SAKE PLEASE BEAR WITH ME AND REACQUAINT YOURSELF WITH THIS BEAUTIFUL LOVE STORY.

CHAPTER ONE

Through her mask she watched the gaiety of the light and sound filled hall. It was an exquisite hall with ten golden chandeliers hanging from the most amazing sculptured ceiling she had ever seen.  The marbled floor reflected the chandeliers and all who cared to stop and admire but no one did except Helen. This was because she has mastered the act of being the wall flower whenever she found herself in events like this. Which wasn’t often anyway, she had always managed to avoid attending parties but this one she could not say no to because… because… strange she couldn’t remember why she was here and she couldn’t recognize any of the faces here. She laughed softly; no one would blame her for not recognizing anyone after all everyone’s face was covered in mask. Without meaning to she began to play a game in her mind to see how many people she could recognize even with their masks on. Her first win was Nma, how could anyone not know that that petite and curvy body in white body con gown could only belong to the wife of the richest man in Africa and beyond.

Helen smiled as she remembered the intriguing story of how they met, their adventurous romance that nearly caused her life and the never ending happiness and love they now share. As she watched Nma dancing with a man, no doubt Uche her husband, she sighed as he whispered something to her and she laughed, raised his mask and kissed him. Only the Okohas would be this bold with their show of affection. Helen thought. If she was ever going to fall in love, if the depth was not going to be as deep as what Nma and Uche shared, she was not falling. She wondered if there was a man out there who would ever see her more than she was, plain Helen. Is there any man out there who sees beyond what the eyes present, who see through her soul and find out the great yearning for love. For someone to hold her, touch her, offer a solid shoulder to cry on because lately she had done nothing but wake up shivering from the most horrifying nightmare.

She shook her head from side to side trying to shake off the disturbing thought her life brought her. The thought that she couldn’t have a life till she found out who she really was, was not only frightening but heart wrenching depressing.

To distract herself, she began to look around at the other people mingling, laughing and enjoying themselves. Before long her attention was caught by a couple, a ruggedly built man dancing with a girl and she seemed to hang on his every word. Even without his silky shoulder length hair and tanned complexion one would always recognize Chuck Obi by the way the ladies flocked around him. Even if there wasn’t that, her heart would always remember the one it yearns for but couldn’t have.  She sighed deeply and as if she wasn’t tortured herself enough,  her eyes returned to Chuck and the girl clinging to him. She sneered noticing that there were those waiting desperately for the music to end so they could have their turn on the dance floor with him. Helen sighed with disgust and looked away only to find more interesting view of a couple who couldn’t wait to take it to one of the empty rooms upstairs or to a more shadowy corner. She laughed at their foolishness.

Suddenly a voice spoke behind her, the hair on her nape stood on end and she swirled around in anticipation.

“I have been watching you watch me’ a deep husky voice she could remember anywhere said behind her.

Chuck? When did he move from the dance floor? When did the music stop? Her heart stopped completely and she took several shallow breaths to normalize her center. To remind herself that the man was well out of her reach and an embodiment of conceit

‘I have not been watching you’ she turned away from him

‘Have you not?’ he demanded taking hold of her shoulder and turning her to face him. She stiffened her shoulders to stop his hands from spreading the slow melting of her organs that his voice started.

She slapped his hands off. ‘I know your arrogance would not take any other answer so why bother?’ she said instead

He laughed softly

‘That stiffening of shoulders tells me different’

She stared at him wildly, afraid that he might have guessed what was going on in her mind. She was totally speechless and didn’t know how to defend herself against this amazing but annoying man.

‘Care to leave this venue?’

‘With you, I don’t think so” she told him firmly even as her heart raced. Why would Chuck Obi want to leave the party with her? Did he really think that her stiffened shoulder meant take me home and do what you want with me and make the happiest woman on earth?

She turned to face him squarely summoning her remaining strength. She scoffed at him and turned to walk away but he caught her upper hand.

‘You know want to’

She turned to give him a piece of her mind and to put him in his place once and for all.

‘I too want that very much’

His words stopped her flow of angry words and she stopped speechless and confused and melting every second. She could feel her strength slipping away and while that frightening weakness for him took over her slowly.

 What is happening here, she asked herself. Was he becoming attracted to her or… she heaved a sigh of disgust. Chuck was a first class womanizer. That thought brought her back to earth, her equilibrium restored. He probably thought she had been blending with the wall, watching, waiting and praying he took notice of her. What better woman to take home for a one night stand than the one who would melt with longing and gratitude at first eye contact.

Okay was she insinuating that she was that woman who would melt with gratitude at first eye contact? She had had more than eye contact with him, he had touched and caressed and kissed her before and she didn’t melt with longing and gratitude. Yes you did her mind whispered. So much that you forgot your purse, so much that you are afraid to go back and get it.

‘Helen! Helen!’ he chanted ‘When will you ever let go and enjoy yourself’

‘I was enjoying myself’ she snapped at him

‘I was kidding’ he laughed

If he tried he would never know how much he hurt her at that time. So he thought she was play thing, a joke he could deepen his voice and deem his eyes for and say words that are… that are..

‘Look even from the dance floor I could see that you were enjoying yourself  as much as these walls are probably doing’

She heaved a sigh, there was no need getting hurt over someone who would ever care enough. It was waste of energy. That kind of negative energy she didn’t need at this point in her life.

‘What are you doing here? Don’t you have more women to charm?’

‘I have had enough and I think you have too, come on let’s go, I will take straight to wherever you want to go, scout honor’

Helen heaved another sigh. She had wanted to leave the venue for while now but had been too tired to go out and get a cab. She knew Chuck; he wouldn’t take advantage of her. He respected Nma too much for that.

‘I will get my wrap’ she said

He smiled ‘hurry I will be outside’

Did she know what she was doing? She asked herself. Was she aware that she was about to leave with Chuck Obi World’s number one playboy. Yes, she answered, she had already concluded that Chuck won’t harm her. Was she also aware she was letting Helen, world’s number one weakling for Chuck go home with him, ride in the same car, breathe the same air, No Chuck wasn’t the problem here, the problem here was Helen but Helen being a weakling could not change her mind because it was not every day she got to spend the time with the most exciting man on earth.

Helen got her wrap, and went in search of Chuck.

Outside she breathed a sigh of relief. The fresh air was exhilarating and healing. After all the noise and stuffiness of the hall, this seemed like paradise.

Where was Chuck? She looked around for him. Had he gone without her? He wouldn’t be cruel as to play a game on her. Why would he, she asked when dozens of women in there were falling over themselves to go home with him. She smiled and cautioned herself. It was high time she abandoned her phobia of abandonment. What game could Chuck probably play on her? Project let’s see how easy she would follow. She laughed at her joke.

‘Have you been waiting long?’

She smiled her answer and entered the car as the porter held the door open for her. As soon as the door closed he zoomed off. She had to hold on the dash board for few minutes before getting the courage to do up her seatbelt. She gave him side long glance and he was smiling. He was driving a Porsche in a lightning bolt speed and was smiling like he was a passenger in a cruise boat at the deck with the sea breeze on his face?

‘Please slow down a bit’

He glanced at her and grinned ‘afraid are we?’

‘No but some of us love to live to see the next day’

‘Don’t worry, it is two am, the road is mostly clear and I am not drunk’

‘What about the street light poles, pavements and all drainages?

‘Gush! For a quiet girl you have a black and suicidal mind’

‘Better that than an accident’

She smiled when she noticed the car slowing.

‘What exactly do you do for Nma?’

The question was sudden, she wasn’t expecting it. She had thought he spoke seduction and nothing more

‘I am the head designer and co owner of its lingerie and bikini range’

‘Interesting! I can imagine that’

Of course you could she added silently. There is no womanizer alive that would not appreciate her line of work. Not when that womanizer is the sexiest man alive for three consecutive years.

‘What is your favorite color?’

‘Red’ she answered off offhandedly

‘Mine too, I find that red lace and silk are the height of sexy’

‘It is just a job Chuck’

‘I don’t think so, if it were, you not be any good at it and I believe I have heard Nma sing your praises a time or two’

‘Okay yes it is my job to create sexy but it is more than that, I have to create elegance, class and innocence too…’

‘Who cares for elegance and class in bed, what kind of guys have you been dating?’

Good question she said to herself and thank goodness it was rhetoric or else there was no way she could tell this man that she had not been dating for years now.

‘Some advice, always think sex when you design…’

‘Look I can’t have this conversation with you. So change of topic’

He grinned and turned back to the road.

She smiled foolishly admiring his grin. Geez was there anything about him she didn’t find sexy?

She turned back to road, to clear her head and noticed that they were in a dirt road. Suddenly a feeling of foreboding came over her. She had been here before. She turned to Chuck in panic. But he was back in his mask. What was going on? She asked herself in increasing dread.

‘Why are you suddenly afraid?’ he asked,

He didn’t even sound like Chuck she noticed in heightened alarm

‘Where are we going?’

‘You know’

‘Why are you wearing that mask?”

He laughed eerily ‘But you know’

Did she? She asked in fear so incomprehensible.

‘Why are you clutching that red purse? He asked

She looked at her hands and found out she was holding the red purse. Then it came back, this was her past. Chuck was not in her past

‘We are almost there’ he said

She saw the red warehouse.  Was she in a dream? She had to wake up before he took her in there. There was evil there.

She began to struggle ‘Let me go! What do you want! He only laughed harder

And then the car door suddenly opened and she leaped out. Before she could fall on the ground, dreading the impact and the very painful rolling it would involve, she woke up on her bed.

Helen sat up in her bed, holding her head as if to wade off the heavy headache, fever and equally heavy breathing. The nightmare was not new, ever since she woke in the middle of a strange street beaten to the half inch of her life and no memory; she had always had this reoccurring nightmare. But this time the nightmare was a bit different, there was the red purse! Her red purse, it was the only item she had with her on the street that fateful day. It could mean something. It could be a connection to her past. It could help her remember.

She jumped off the bed to look for it. It wasn’t where it was supposed to be.

No! No! No! She couldn’t lose it no! It was the only connection to her past. Then she remembered Chuck. She left it the last and only time she was with Chuck, in his car. Then the dream began to make a sense to her. She needed the purse back. Chuck said she should come and get it herself.

She slowly sat down on her bed.

That she would very well do. She promised.

hello reader!

Someone said that he thought I have 'jet out'  he doesn't know how right he is, the truth is I thought I have jet out. For past few months I have battled several kinds of tribulations and trials.

 My television program suddenly came to an end, my facilitators were backing out left, right and center. The program i wanted to put on air did not happen. There was road block everywhere I turned, these are just but a few. I couldn't write not only did my eyes become very bad that i could hardly look at a computer, I lost the zeal to write because I was in a very negative frame of mind.

It was so bad that the little money I had to open a shop so i don't die of hunger.

Amidst all these challenges, something kept me going and that was the knowledge that God loves me. I knew i could be sure that. he knows my situation, he knows how bad i was feeling. I knew he was watching like a mother watches a child struggling to sit or crawl. the mother knows that the child is in pain but she would still not help him because she understands that only if the child overcomes his fears and pain would he progress.

That was my faith in God. His love is constant. In times of great tribulation and trial and awful changes we can be sure that there is something that does not change and that is the love of God. No matter, good or bad we are, He loves us and that became my reason, the reason I called one more sponsor, the reason I went for one more meeting, the reason I struggled to overcome in face of continuous disappointment, the reason I am at cyber cafe instead of my office writing. (no more internet subscription) the reason I smile and tell people I am fine when they ask.

I am not at the top of my game yet but as I sat in my office/shop. I heard the voice say no one is coming to help, you have to get out there and seek help. you have to start somewhere. I didn't bless you with a great writing talent for you to sit in a shop.  So here I am. we are back

I am not done with every waking moment but i will post on Monday becasue only my striving will I overcome. so please email your thoughts and and inspirational write up and it will get published here.

I love you all

this time around, there is no going back no matter what we face!

God is with us

In the name of Jesus Christ 

amen

hi everyone! to say it been a long time is an understatement of the century. but really it has been a long time. i know i have been missed. i truly i appreciate all those who asked, called, texted on social media etc. it is really blessing to be appreciated by people you try hard to please.

this is to let you know that we are back bigger and better. from now expect those juicy romance and beautiful tips

yours ever

Chioma

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Tips for better sex life

A Lot of couples see making love to their partners as a laborious duty. The women are perpetually tired or ill or the oldest lie 'headache'
Now I am not the type to blame the women like most people will do and start lecturing them to do what they don't find exciting anymore.
Men and women none is exempt. Couples should work together in making their bedroom lives more exciting.
Making love should be exciting. If you are a woman and your husband wants you every night, you are queen and if you are a man and your wife nearly never says no to you, you must be doing something right.  but if not, if your bedroom life is a stress and a bother you will rather be excused from, here are some tips.

1. Make your relationship exciting outside the bedroom. If you ignore each other all day, you don't call each other or only call when you want to remind him or her of an obligation and then you come home, read paper or face your laptop or you don't come back till she has gotten tired of waiting for you. Then suddenly you turn to her in the bedroom. I assure you she will be ill or tired or have a headache. Making love is more than a bedroom act. Call to say I miss you, say I just want to hear your voice. send romantic text telling him or her how much you love, miss her. Dash into his/her office for lunch. Hold hands, go out on dates once in a while, stand beside her while she is cooking dinner or walk in at intervals for kisses or to help or even to pinch the meat, she will smack you playfully, these are all build ups. Before you finish locking up for the night she will be in sexiest lingerie waiting for you.

2. Be sensitive to what she needs. A lot men complain she is dull, she is frigid. No she is not, she does not understand what the big deal is all about. So to her she will rather not stress herself further.
Making love is easier for a man to quickly become satisfied but for a woman it is different story. Try to be sensitive to her needs. Talk, ask, watch her reaction to what you are doing. Make her understand what the big deal is.

3. If she is the shy type or not comfortable about her body owing to child birth. Your work is cut out for you.
First of all you have to assure her that you still find her as beautiful as the first time you touched her. Tell she is even more beautiful because she is the mother of your children. Don't just tell her, show her in and out of the bedroom.
If she is shy type gradually bring her out of her shyness by letting her set the pace. Only introduce new and less frightening ways gradually and when you are sure she can handle it. Don't leave her in her shy state and go outside to get your action. Working, talking about it, gradually bring your bedroom life up to most exciting level you can think of.

4. Some couple are just tired of each other or of doing one thing every night. It is now boring. Be creative with your sex life as couples. Now I will not advice any couple to watch porn, this is because porn degrades lovemaking,  making it animalistic, finding new ways to make your bedroom life exciting should come from that inner communication or need to satisfy your partner. If you are so much into each other, if you really love each other, it will show as you touch each other's soul. The excitement most times is not in the styles or positions but in the feeling that in this moment in time you are totally one and can touch each other souls and communicate on a higher level.

5. The know it all syndrome. Men are mostly guilty of this. Just by the virtue of being the man you make yourself lord, master and teacher. Her opinion doesn't count, what she thinks, knows and needs are not important. Even when your leadership is not working you enforce it. She pleads tired or ill, you force her after all she should be submissive to you and you are only taking what is rightfully yours. I don't think that is what the Apostle meant when he asked women to be submissive to their husbands. If you want your marriage and most importantly your sex life to work, then you must bear in mind that you don't know it all.
To combat this for better sex, have a lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from her, and get down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes "the way it’s done." Lose this myth and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for better sex you won't regret

6. Be creative, we cannot runaway from the fact that for sex to be exciting you must be creative. Take it out of the bedroom, it is not the only room in the house. Plan a weekend getaway, steal her away during the day to a hotel. Apart from porn, there are other descent ways to learn new things and new ways to upgrade your bedroom lives. There are some psychologists and some professional men and women who lecture on these subject. Seek them out personally or by reading their books, or their write up on the Internet.

7. Make time,  the reason why married couples have less exciting sex is because they are too busy. Busy with work, chores, children and they forget themselves. Most times men will rather spend time hanging  out with friends over drinks and single girls than coming home to give their wives some loving. And when they come home reeking of alcohol, what woman wouldn't plead headache, illness and tiredness at the same time. Make time to be romantic, make time to talk, make time to go out on dates, make time to just be together. When you get this part right, you will want to spend all available time with each other in the bedroom.

8. Romance, There is power in that eye contact over the kids head, across a hall filled with people. There is power in that little touch that might mean nothing to onlookers but is communication for both you. There is power in that knowing smile you give each other, that smile and wink that says I remember last night. There is power in an embrace, in little pecks and kisses. There is power in play, laughing, smacking just connect with your inner child. There is power in romance. How can you have a beautiful sex life if you don't know the power of romance.


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I am back and I am very thankful to those who kept asking. Thank you for your concern.
Every waking moment out soon. Still writing it. And if you have a concern and advice send a mail to stelchris@yahoo.com or amberfallstv@gmail.com you use fake names and all. But you will get real advice.

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Recovery from heartbreak is much like processing grief, so we go through the following stages:

Denial ("This can't be the end, I'm sure he will call.")
Anger ("I hate her.")
Bargaining ("Maybe if I behaved differently, it would work.")
Depression ("I never want to love again so I never feel this pain again.")
Acceptance ("It was. And now, it is over.

Before that you must go through some process of healing listed below.

1) Know your love and feelings were real. Just because it didn't last doesn't mean it wasn't real or true. You're not crazy, foolish, wrong or delusional.

2) Understand love is always a gift. Love is a blessing even if it ends painfully, for heartbreak bears great wisdom.

3) Consider that all things happen and people come into our lives for a reason. Eckhart Tolle says, "Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness." A relationship that ends is not a mistake or failure.

4) Stay in the present. Don't ruminate about the past or second guess your actions. Don't worry about the future. ("Will he find somebody else? Will that relationship be better?") Stay out of your head, for that is a dangerous place to go. Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing and meditation. Imagine breathing in what you need (strength, hope, energy) and out what you don't (pain, aches, sadness).

5) Release feelings of anger, hatred and thoughts of revenge. Understand this are all related to ego and cause you more harm than good. Anger exacerbates anxiety and depression, keeps us tethered and prevents us from moving forward. As Nelson Mandela said, "Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill your enemies." In a moment of quiet, repeat the mantra, "I forgive and release you and let you go."

6) Let go of the attachment or connection. Don't be a whack-a-mole and repeatedly poke your head up for rejection from the object of your affection. As Mark Twain said, "Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option." Care enough about yourself to conserve your energy for those who deserve it, starting with yourself!

7) Get support. Talk to friends and family who are empathic and kind. Tell them specifically what you need from them. If your friends are tired of your broken record, consider therapy or a support group. Get immediate help if feeling so depressed you are suicidal.

8) Know you are lovable. Do not misinterpret the end of a relationship as meaning you are somehow not enough. Sometimes people aren't capable of giving us the love we need and deserve, which is their issue and not yours. You are exactly as you should be and are perfectly lovable just the way you are.

9) Practice self-love. Recognize masochistic and self-harm behaviors (not eating, substance abuse, risky behaviors, etc.) and nip them in the bud. As Buddha said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Stick to structure and routine and get proper rest, nutrition and exercise. Don't isolate yourself or your depression will take a deeper hold on you.

10) Know this too shall pass. Put one foot in front of the other and time will heal your wounds. Even if you can't imagine feeling better or being open to love again, you most certainly will. In my practice, I have been awed and amazed by the resiliency of the human spirit.

"The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it..." -- Nicholas Sparks

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10 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR DATE SPECIAL AND ROMANTIC
In this country, you see couple date who never go out on date, except maybe during the toasting period. As a couple who have been together for long, going is non existent.

But here ten ways it could still be exciting for you as the toasting days.


1. Re-enact your first date: for most people, first date are memorable because that is the day most efforts were used to make an impression, to show love and care, to prove the relationship will work or to prove how happy you will make each other.
So by re enacting your first date, it reminds you why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

2. Send a romantic message: it could be a text, or bbm voice but if you really want to be romantic, write a letter, kiss it all over or just where you seal with a red lip stick, spray your perfume on it and send it to him before you meet for a date

3. Take a walk: just as the sun turns into a orange bloom or the cloud darkens. Take a stroll holding hands and simply enjoy nature and each other. Make a run for it if rains or snows. Getting physical could put you in that love mood

4. Get a massage: book massage with your partner. While you are lying side by side and relaxing, letting your bodies get pampered, look at each other and let your eyes say how you feel. You may hold hands if you can.

5. Visit the less privileged: you and your partner could spend some time with the orphans, motherless or those in the hospital. Just go with gifts and have fun with them. This may be the time to show him how perfect a family you could be or how good a mother you will make, you'd surprised that he will pop the question.

6: look good: don't wait for him to take you shopping before a date. Take yourself and buy what you are going to wear from sexy lingerie to the most fabulous attire you can afford. Do your hair. This is the day to look and feel fabulous as ever.

7. Make it a weekend getaway: instead of spending the whole time at home like you always do, make it a weekend getaway. Go to a resort or spend a little money and stay in a five star hotel and get that five star treatment. Believe it or not luxury makes romance more exciting.

8. Listen to love song all day: you can do this together (strongly recommended) as the music wafts out from the stereo, look at him/her especially when the song says something you feel deeply. This way you are telling each other how you feel without words. You can do this while sitting quietly together and holding each other or while you are in the kitchen and he is somewhere else..i assure you the lyrics of the song will bring him to you. You can listen to it by yourself while getting ready for your date. It will put you in that romantic mood.

9. Cook her dinner: most men think this is a woman thing or it makes them less manly. But you don't know how romantic a woman feels seeing her man in apron And tinkering about in the kitchen exclusively for her. It makes her feel special. It doesn't matter if you are superb chef or you are so pathetic that you burn the food. She will feel loved, special and extravagantly happy..and you would have achieved your aim.

10. Dance the night away: when I say this, I do not mean to shoki or shake body, I mean to some beautiful love song. Do this at the balcony where the wind will be soft and chilly, or at a bar or restaurant that offers a dance area. Or in your living room

I know most girls go to work with their overnight bag and then go home to their boyfriends. the weekend is spent just like that on his bed.
Ask for romance, nothing as romantic as dressing up and waiting to be picked up by your date. You will feel like Cinderella waiting for her prince.

If you are single, don't be left out and don't become desperate to find someone to spend the day with. You will only get laid for nothing. Dress up and go out, go dancing, see movie, eat out. Who knows some lonely single man you might meet.

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LIFESTYLE (LOOK NATURAL AND FABULOUS)

Becoming a naturally beautiful is not a day's job. You can decide to go without make up and look OK but we are going for fabulous, where there is no spot, pimple or dullness. You can be radiant, smooth and beautiful with out makeup if you take the following steps

DETOXIFICATION :

Beauty starts from the inside, a little half lemon or lime in full glass of warm water will help wash our the debris inside you, help your become leaner and your skin brighter.

CLEANSING
You don't only cleanse before or after make up, our climate is too rough to go without cleansing whether you applied make up or not.

MIND YOUR DIET
Many people don’t realize that the skin is our largest organ. It needs caring for both inside and out. To help it look beautiful without any makeup, feed it properly, with lots of water and vitamins. Also ensure that you get enough sleep and Abstain from alcohol if natural beauty and looks is what you are going for.

EYE BROW
Groom your self, enhance your natural features, pluck your eye brows into a perfect arch. Believe me even without eye pencil you will look smart.

SMILE
A genuine smile really does make anyone look great. People will notice your smile rather than any ‘flaws’ – and they certainly won’t notice that you’re makeup-free. Avoid a forced grin, as that won’t look at all natural, but let your smile reach your eyes.

CONFIDENCE
Don't let anybody shut you down, tell you you are not beautiful with or without make up. If you believe you are fabulously beautiful, you will naturally act it and people will have no choice but to see you that way.

LASHES
No, you don't need mascara to bring out your lashes and make them look voluminous! There are actually other natural ways to pump up your lashes without reaching for that make up bag. One way to make your lashes Look darker, fuller and longer is by combing through with a layer of Vaseline. Vaseline really is a miracle product! It could be used as a solution to almost any female problem, so why should this be any different?

BRIGHTEN YOUR EYES
You might feel like your eyes become dull and indistinguishable without any eyeliner or eye shadow, but don't think that only makeup can bring our your eyes. Simply using eyes drops to wake up your whole Face and make the whites of your eyes appear clearer can make the difference. Your natural beauty can stand out without any artificial help!

MOISTURIZING
 Even if you have oily skin, moisturizing can prevent your body from excreting excess oil and help lock in moisture to keep your the surface of your skin

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PROTECT YOUR SKIN FROM UV RAYS
There is no way you can consider your skin to be healthy without protecting it from the harmful UV rays. Not only does sunscreen protection result in facial improvement only after a couple of days but it also benefits your appearance in the long run, helping your skin age gracefully. Make applying sunscreen a couple of minutes before you leave your house a ritual even on the gloomy days, and you won't regret it in the end.

WHITEN YOUR TEETH
You don't have to resort to harmful whitening strips that often damage your enamel, but reach the effect of white smile by constantly using whitening toothpaste and mouthwash. Believe it or not this combination can lead to very effective results. In addition there are tons of natural remedies for a brighter smile!

HYGIENE
Hygiene is the key concept in keeping up a good appearance. Oftentimes you don't need a ton of makeup to look presentable! Clean hair, nice nails, clean clothes and controlled body odor should be the foundation of your beauty so you should always prioritize your hygiene first before using additional tricks to enhance  your appearance.

LIPSTICK ALTERNATIVE
There is a no need to use lipsticks or lip stains to change the color of your lips because in the end your natural lip color will always suit you best. Exfoliate your lips every week to get rid of the dead skin and moisturize them so they become soft and plushy, all you need is a toothbrush to lightly rub your lips with and any lip balm of your preference.

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HUNGRY HEARTS

HUNGRY HEARTS
Dear readers

I hope you are all doing good.
Please I need your help. Yes I know that I share the blame here but right now I am trying to do what is right.
I have been dating Fred for three years now. He lives abroad and comes back twice a year.  The relationship is not perfect but I stayed with him cos I love him.
He cheats on me regularly, when he is doing that he would flaunt the girl on his bbm. We will quarrel and he will beg then I would forgive. His excuse is that I am not there with him and that he is a man with needs, that those girls are not important.
Six months back he began dating this very beautiful white girl. And this time around when I complained he broke up with me. A month later I began dating Mike.
Four months later Fred came back and apologized, he said he wants us to get married now. So quickly I tried to break up with Mike. Mike refused, he would cry and beg then I would pity him each time I try.  I found myself dating two guys. My fiancée and my boyfriend until my big sister noticed and warned me. So I forcefully broke up with Mike.
The trouble began when we went for Fred's sister's birthday party and Mike was there. Him and Fred used to be close before but not anymore. Mike started trying to become close to him after that but I fought. It was like we are fighting over Fred. Then he resorted to blackmail. He said if I don't come and see him, he would tell Fred all about us.
I opted to tell Fred first after all I have forgiven a lot but my girlfriend said no that I would loose him if I did. That he is with me cos he thinks I am different. If I tell him he would realize that I am not. That is true Fred always says I different cos not all girls will faithfully wait for a guy abroad. He is very proud of that.
My big sis says I should tell b4 mike does. That Fred would get angry but he would realize it was his fault I strayed and forgive.

Please readers which of these advice do I take?

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AMBER ROMANCE

WHEN THE HEART KNOWS

CHAPTER SEVEN





Nma heart flipped with fear as she heard the anger in his voice. She grasped about for what to say or do to make him go away.
“Ah! But we need privacy, don’t you agree?” she glared at him and feigned anger to convince him to go away.
“You already know the answer to that honey, are you going to move out of the way do I have to carry you inside. On a second thought I think I would prefer that, it would kill any illusion Ken might have left”.
Horrified Nma reluctantly led the way into the living room. He sounded as if he would rather carry out his threat and she had no doubt he would. By the time they came into the living room, Ken was already standing, judging from the expression on his face, she guessed he must have seen Uche kiss her and probably heard their conversation. The first thing that hit her was the difference between the two men, while Uche exuded an effortlessly aura of class and wealth in his white attire, Ken looked pitiful in his brown caftan, ridiculously small compared to Uche and she wondered at that moment how she had endured his company all these while. But she smiled at him as she entered with Uche.
“Ken I want you to meet someone” she began “Uche, a friend of mine and Uche this is Ken.” she stopped at that because if called Ken her fiancé he would capitalize on that.
She watched as the two men shook hands. They reminded her of two fighters circling and weighing each other in an areana.
“Okoha right?” Ken asked maliciously
“Right” he answered jovially
“I’ve heard so much about you” Ken said eyeing Nma hardly
“It is quite difficult to meet someone who hasn’t heard so much about me”
“And I’ve heard so much about you from Nma” Uche said indirectly
“I know you would, we’re kind of a kindred spirit, right honey?” Ken said and Uche laughed. He was sure going to enjoy himself.  The guy was dumber than he thought if he didn’t recognize that he was mocking him.
“So Uche” Ken began “How long have you known my fiancée?”
Uche eyed him lazily and sat down “Just a couple of weeks but it feels like years already, doesn’t it?” he asked Nma.
Nma frowned at him; he shouldn’t bring her into this game. She was not going to be a part of it. If they wanted to fight, fine by her but she wasn’t going to play referee.
“Well I don’t know about that Uche but it doesn’t feel like years to me yet” she told him meaning to wipe the smug look from his face.
“I guess it doesn’t, years sounds boring, forgive my exaggeration” he laughed easily.
“I see” Ken muttered and turned to Nma with a glare. “I take it he was the one you spent the whole of your night with”
Nma’s shock was evident but she pitied Ken, she wished she could lessen the hurt but she couldn’t do that without accepting to marry him.
“Yes I was the one indeed” Uche answered for her
“I was asking my fiancée” he glared at Uche
“Calm down Ken, yes I was with Uche last night I told you I was invited…”
“…To a pre dinner drink and after wards you made your own plans, you should be ashamed of yourself falling this cheap after holding on for so long Nma, Okoha goes through women like they are Kleenex!”
Nma saw red and she was about to explode with anger but for Uche’s timely intervention.
“Contrary to what you may think Ken but had Nma spent the whole of the night with me, we would still be in bed till now and I assure you she wouldn’t have the energy to become as angry as she is right now”
Nma was surprised most men would brag about their conquest, some would brag even about women they know they would never come close to bedding even in the next life. But here he was openly admitting that he had not slept with her.
“Thank you Uche, Ken please I would appreciate this visit to be cordial. You know you have no right to act the way you are doing with me”
“Well didn’t you hear him? He has not slept with you yet doesn’t mean he is not planning to”
“I am not a kid Ken! Please I beg for the second time don’t treat me like one”
“Tell me Ken, honestly are you not planning on the same thing, you don’t have to be hypocritical about it, just be honest”
For an answer Ken glared at him.
Nma smiled nervously but kept quiet, she was thinking of what to do to get one of them to leave, because there were signs of danger antagonizing about. Ken was trying to get Uche to lose his temper but Uche was taking all his innuendos in strides that he got her confused about his utterance about taking her away from Ken. She heaved a sigh knowing that she could never get Uche to leave; already he has made himself at home by relaxing in her father’s favorite arm chair, apart from that he would never leave her alone with Ken. But Ken she could always make him leave if she applied a little bit of trickery to his senses. She thought smiling mischievously.
“Don’t you want to sit down Ken?” she smiled sweetly at him. He shrugged and sat down
“Now what do I offer you?” she asked Uche
“You know what I like” he answered smiling
“All right, I’ll be back” she smiled.
“So you know him well enough to know what he drinks” Ken’s words stopped her in her tracks and she turned.
“Ken please I told you he is a friend” she admonished mildly
“For now” Uche winked at her and she swallowed hard forgetting for an instant that they were not alone. She smiled back at him “Your confidence is irritating sir” she said to him and he laughed as she disappeared into the kitchen.
“Do you realize it’s my fiancée you are talking about or just because you are an Okoha you think that gives you the right to everything in this world, this is one thing your money is not going to buy for you” Ken flayed up.
“Actually I wouldn’t be here, if I thought my money could buy her for me, I think it’s me without the Okoha money that has single handedly won her heart” Uche said devoid of anger.
“I can see you are a mad man just like the people say, the rate you go through women I don’t think you have a heart, and Nma is not going to fall a victim, not if I can help it”
“There is absolutely nothing you can do about it Ken, you know I am already the winner here. If I were you I would bow out graciously”
“She is going to marry me”
“She is not wearing your ring yet and my guess is she would never, not after the way she responded to my kisses”
Ken glared at him “let me tell you, she could be sweet on you now because you are everything she needs to take her career further but that is what it is, she would be using you and not loving you”
“Luckily for me I have enough money to keep her interested for a long while yet” Uche smiled at him. He could see the man’s frustration and he enjoyed it.

Meanwhile back in the kitchen, Nma delayed coming out, she was still trying to devise a means of getting rid of Ken. She didn’t want to be cruel to him but she knew that she could manipulate him. Though she honestly didn’t want to do that but if she left the two men to stay antagonizing and saying heated words to each other, it might result into a fight. That was the last of her intentions, it was better to take care of things now before they got far.  She laughed softly as she loaded the tray with pineapple drink, Uche was truly an enigma. She thought he would be barks and fights and she would have to defend Ken but it turned out that he was the one at the receiving end while Ken doled out loads of indirect insults. She loved especially the way he had come clean to tell Ken that he had not slept with her, but Ken was quick to note the unspoken yet in his words. She laughed and carried the drink out, one way or the other they were going to survive today. She looked at the drink she was carrying, and smiled at Uche’s trickery. Uche’s favorite drink had alcohol in it. And he knew she would not have anything alcoholic in her house but she was sure he was going to enjoy the pineapple juice like it was his favorite for Ken’s benefit. “Men” she muttered as she walked away.

In the living room, Ken was standing again standing and pacing while Uche lazily inspected his well manicured finger. Suddenly Ken turned to him.
“Nma is mine and I am not going to let you take her away”
“Good for you that is the spirit” Uche sounded bored
“You think this is a game? You think just because I am not rich as you are I am not able to take care of my woman?”
Uche smiled and shook his head in pity for Ken. The man was totally dumb. Whatever he was going to say was cut off by Nma as she entered with the drinks.
“Nma can take care of herself” Nma put in quietly and began to pour the drink. She gave to Ken first “To be sincerely honest Ken, I don’t see what you are flaying up for, or why you see Uche as a threat, don’t forget he could become a lucrative client if you play your cards right” Nma advised and moved over to hand Uche his drink
“Your favorite” she couldn’t resist saying and he laughed but he stopped as Ken began to talk again.
“That is all you think about, money, power and business, you don’t even stop to read what’s between the line, once it has to do with money, you are all for it”
Uche became very annoyed, the woman Ken described was not the same Nma he had come to respect. Given she was ambitious but she was very reserved and hardworking and intelligent and he was not going to sit still and have that silly excuse for a man talk to her like that.
“Are we sure we are talking about the same woman? The Nma I know and has come to respect works very hard for all she has and she deserves to enjoy them” Uche said honestly
Ken looked at Uche wickedly. He knew he had been bested and he was very angry about it.
“That was not fair Ken, you know I am not what you’ve just described, that shows exactly what you think of me and how little you know me. And you know the worst part; you don’t even care to find out the kind of person I am. You are already biased on the kind of person you think I am, so maybe now you would begin to understand what I have been trying to say to you”
Jerking Ken stood up. “I don’t know why I am wasting my time here” he said stiffly, leaving.
“I am sorry Ken, please don’t take it that way, you have been a good friend…”
“I am not going to allow you to eat your cake and have it, it is everything or nothing”
He began to leave
“Ken” she tried to go after him but Uche stopped her.
“Let him be, faint hearts never won fair ladies”
“I’m not a faint heart Mr. billionaire, you haven’t seen the last of me yet, and she is still my fiancée” Ken muttered.
Nma smiled, she didn’t know Ken possessed such confidence.
“Yes for a little while Ken. You are wrong for her and you will kill her zeal for life and when you say I haven’t seen the last of you, I hope you know what you mean, I make a formidable enemy, I can ruin you Ken and you know it.” Uche said gently and seriously.
“You’re a bastard, I knew you would resort to blackmail, I guess that is what got you so far”
“Like they say, all is fair in love and war” Uche said sounding very arrogant that he was beginning to annoy Nma.
“I am not an object to be taken, I am….” Nma began to say
“That serves you right” Ken said and left banging the door behind him.
Nma heaved sigh but not one of relief, she was feeling sick and she was suddenly very angry with herself and with Uche. She hated to see Ken leave that way. She decided that she was going to apologize and hope she could make him understand why she turned him down. As for Uche, she wasn’t in the mood for his presence.
“I think you should leave too” Nma said to Uche firmly.
“Why?” he asked innocently.
“Why because, I’ve got work to do, I was working on a new design before I was disturbed by two pigheaded men.”
“I remember I promised to help you, if the work gets too much for you.”
“I don’t need your help besides you wouldn’t know where to start, I bet you never had to sew in a button or mend a tear all your life”
“You would be surprised of what I’m capable of”
“Look Uche if you want to stay here, fine, as for me I’m going to work” she said heading to her studio. She marched away from him. She was quite irritated with the man couldn’t he just leave, she thought.
She entered her studio and surveyed it. As always she was overcome with humility and gratitude and she was feeling almost better at once. She started working immediately; believing that Uche had left, somehow she wished he would come in to see her world. She would show off her world with pride but she had already chased him away she mused, working and humming to herself softly.
Uche entered her studio; her back to him meant she didn’t notice his presence immediately. He was enthralled by the vision she made. She must have forgotten to hold her hair, and she flipped it back as she worked but the hair always found its way to her face again. He wanted to flip the long braids for her, he wanted to rub her shoulders and ease the tension he was sure she would be feeling because of the position her work demanded. Without thinking he walked to her and held her hair and pushed his hands into it and rubbed. His pulse quickened when he heard her sigh of pleasure and let his hands roam from her scalp to her neck, kneading at the visible tension. He loved the way her body reacted to his touch but he wasn’t going to give in to his desire of feasting on her lips until he eased her tension.
Nma purred like a cat. Where did he learn to massage like that but it wasn’t just the massage that got her body quivering, it was him, it was the sheer joy of being cared for by a man you love so desperately. Her hands fell away from the machine and found their way to his neck; she wanted to taste him desperately. Forgotten was her earlier repulsion. She didn’t believe, couldn’t believe that heaven had more than this to offer. She sighed when he gave in to her demands and kissed her. She sighed then and deepened the kiss. She felt herself being lifted and cradled and she held on to him with abandonment she couldn’t stop any longer.
When he broke the kiss she was surprised to find out that he was now sitting on the chair and she was being cradled in his hands. She smiled. “You make forget myself” she murmured as her nervousness returned with reality.
“Would it make you feel better if I say you do the same to me” he smiled at her.
“I thought you had gone” she whispered reluctant to stand up but she knew she should get up before things got out of hands.
“Not without seeing you in your world” he smiled and looked around “This is where you create all those magnificent clothes” Uche asked.
She looked around her studio, following his eyes, it was a small place but she was mightily proud of it.
She turned to nod at him and the shock of how young she really was hit him again, without make up and sophisticated clothes she looked barely eighteen and incredibly beautiful and he felt inclined to ask.
“So how old are you really?” he asked
Nma was taken about by his quick change of mood and she wondered why her age should become important now when he had not bothered to ask before. Then she understood, today she looked her age and thus younger to him because her face was devoid of makeup. She smiled up at him  and promised herself she was not going to let age come between them. “Why do you ask? I thought you must have guessed” Nma asked, standing up, she wanted him to guess but mostly she wanted to know if he was as blind as Ken.
“Twenty three, five there or about” he guessed. “Very young, very, very young” he murmured.
“You are right, I am twenty six, and too young for you I guess” she smiled
“It’s just my luck I guess that it’s you who got under my skin of all the women I met all over the world, and come to think of it, I’m hardly cradle snatching you” he joked. “You are not a baby” he concluded.
“So how old are you?” she asked, turning to look at him.
“I’m thirty three and not too old for you” he went on to say.
Nma laughed, “If my father was alive, he wouldn’t let you anywhere near me”
“Wow, am I supposed to be happy he isn’t around or pity you for losing him at such a young age?”
“Just be truthful and honest to yourself”
“I’ll reserve my comment” he said laughing “So what is this edifice you are creating?”
“A dinner gown”
“It’s beautiful” he murmured, going to inspect the clothes that hung on the racks
“Did you sew all this alone?” he asked in wonderment
“I have assistants and apprentices they help out too. “Of course I couldn’t have done them without my head cutter and seamstress”
“So are all these for sale?”
“Kind of, those suits over there, were ordered, I have finished with them, they’re going off tomorrow, including those caftans. These other ones are for my exhibition in a couple of months” she stopped “I guess I’m boring you” she said shyly, she knew Ken would be bored to weeping.
“No, I’m fascinated, and this one you are making?”
“I have been thinking of getting into a competition, so I have to create a master piece to win”
“You know what fascinates me most is how you shoulder all these responsibilities at such a tender age, my sister is still a daddy’s pet up till now even though she is getting married.”
“Well, my father loved me so much and spoilt me to an extent, he never did for me what I could do for myself, he taught me all I know, he told me that no one on this earth would face my challenges for me”
“You were eighteen when he died, how did you cope?” Uche asked coming to stand beside her
“My father left me in Felix’s custody until I became twenty one. They took me in; at first I thought I would die of grief, but Felix and Tessy saw to it that I didn’t.”
“Did your schooling suffer too?”
“Not exactly” she said livening up.
“And you don’t have plans of furthering your education?”
“Yes I do, and I want to but it’s just the time”
“You have to make the time, there are part time and evening classes going on every where”
“Do you find me not well read for your standards?”
He was shocked at first; he had just realized that he had never dated anybody who didn’t have one qualification or the other.  He also found out that it didn’t repel him one bit. And then he looked at her in awe, the truth was one could hardly tell from the way she carried herself. Then he saw her laughing at his expression and he realized that she was just pulling his legs.
“Why you minx” Uche said and grabbed her he began kissing her. This kiss was supposed to be a punishment for Nma for what she said but both the punisher and the punished seemed oblivious of that fact. Uche broke the kiss, breathing heavily. “That was to teach you not to say something like that again”
“If this how you punish your women, then no wonder” she laughed
“No wonder what?”
“Nothing” she smiled. She didn’t try to hide that she enjoyed his company and that she was happy. She wondered how she was going to cope when he learnt that she would not have an affair with him, wouldn’t sleep with him outside marriage. She pushed the unhappy thoughts out of her mind. What mattered was now and he was with her enjoying her company like she was doing his. She was contented and tomorrow she would think but now, what mattered was now.
“Of all the women I’ve met, you dare me the most considering you are the youngest and smallest of them all, especially your waist” he said
“If you don’t know Mr. It is in vogue to have as tiny waist as you can mange”
“I like it” he said spanning her waist with one big palm” Uche said and a vision flashed through him, he could see her pregnant with his baby. That very tiny waist could thicken with his baby; he stopped shocked to his bones. What was wrong with him, what was that he just thought about? Marriage was not for him, at least not for many more years to come. This woman was more dangerous than he thought; she already got him visualizing her with his baby. He was losing his mind, he concluded and the earlier he left the better for both of them. Yes of course he was going to delay making love with her for another day. He wasn’t sure he could do that now without proposing. Just as he was thinking for the right excuse to give her, his phone rang and picked it.
“What is it Star?”
Nma remembered the very beautiful woman with an easy effortless grace and she wondered how Uche could be attracted to her after being with a woman like Star.
Try as much as she could, she couldn’t comprehend what Uche Okoha saw in her. Oh! He wanted her body and he didn’t deny that but the woman in her couldn’t help believing that there was more. She was sure he felt more for her than carnal attraction because she found it difficult to believe he went after all his women so vigorously the way he was doing her.  Then again she couldn’t be too sure. Oh! How she wished there was more to his attraction for her other than her body, only then would she begin to hope that he might date her and wait till their wedding night to sleep with her. She stopped, a wedding night. She asked herself. For a wedding night to happen, there must come first of all a wedding and Uche never for once mentioned anything concerning staying with her after he bedded her much less a wedding. She laughed silently at herself; she had just realized that she wanted to marry him as well, to be with him forever. Imagine this man belonging to her and she had the right to love and care for him the way she really wanted. Have access to every inch of his tantalizing body. How she wished, she sighed sadly and looked at him; he smiled at her over the phone. He was still on the phone with Star.
“Alright Star, I would be there shortly. You are just a kill joy” he cut the phone and walked over to her and held her.
“I need to run into the office, you want to come with me?” he asked her
She was greatly tempted to say yes but she wanted some time alone to think about her latest discovery. She couldn’t still believe she wanted to marry Uche. Where was her love for her freedom, to go and come as she pleased and with whomever she pleased? She managed a smile for him and slowly shook her head negatively.
“Thank you but I have to get back to work” she replied
“Are you sure?” he whispered a breath away from her ears and she shivered at his breath caressed her skin.
“I want to come but I can’t and moreover I would be in the way”
He smiled and kissed her.
“Then I’d better take myself off and leave you to do your work” Uche said turning towards the door.
“I will see you out” she muttered.
“Come on then” he said, drawing her to him with his arm on her tiny waist.
As soon as they came out, Nma admired his cream colored BMW. “Nice car” she complimented. “It gets me around town” he murmured.
They stood together and admired the car. “You know this is the third car I am seeing you with since I met you and if you could call a limo a car then it would be the fourth”
He laughed “I love cars, right from childhood and I am yet to be cured of that illness and besides I can afford the illness
“You know some times you sound very arrogant like just now. Money is not the answer to everything”
“But the scripture says that money answereth all things”
“Why do all rich men know that particular verse in the scripture?”
They laughed together. Just as they were laughing, a flash of something passed them. They looked up in time to see a man with a camera dash into a car and zoomed off.
“Great!” Uche muttered “I would very much have loved to get my hands on that man”
“What did he do that for?”
“Well, you better get ready; Uche Okoha in secret romance, Uche Okoha’s latest heartthrob. That’s what you are going to see in the tabloids next”
“I am sorry” she muttered “I thought you should be used to them by now” she said trying to pacify him.
“You never get used to being followed around but it’s you I’m worried about” he turned worried eyes on her.
Nma smiled nervously, she was shaking and she still hadn’t comprehended that she would be in the papers probably tomorrow alongside Uche and dubbed his latest girl friend but she would survive, she thought.
“I’ll survive” she managed to say.
“Are you sure?” he asked her, the tenderness in his eyes was her undoing and she sighed
“I will be fine Uche” she said and gave him a hug because she couldn’t resist the urge.
“Good, I’ll call you” he said giving her a quick kiss and jogged back to his car.





Hello every one!

I know every one is wondering what is happening to every waking moment? I stopped cos of eye problem, I was advised to stay away from heavy writing for a while. I am getting better now.

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Chioma